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How To Deal with Angry Kids
Most parents know that there is little point in descending into a yelling match with an angry child or surly teenager. It’s may be tempting for parents to lose control and jump into a shouting match with a defiant kid, but it is always far better to try to remain calm and not add fuel to the fire. This can allow the child to be able to regain their own control a bit easier too.
If a parent waits until a child calms down, they will relax and be more reasonable and open to logic. If you attempt to reason with them in the middle of an angry outburst, it often only makes them angrier. Because kids and teens don’t have the same abilities to halt their outbursts and reason like adults do, parents will often have to use their own self control techniques when dealing with an angry child in order to convey that same sense of support to the child. By staying calm, a parent not only sets a good example for their children, it also gives them the extra strength needed to handle their own anger more effectively.
It takes solid parenting skills to handle outbursts quickly and effectively, but whatever you do, don’t get physical with your child as it will only escalate things in a very negative way.
Parents who lose control and get physical with their kids are teaching a very negative lesson in how to solve problems with aggression. Although it is never easy to deal with a kid who is being mouthy or defiant, it’s important for parents to be good role models and not descend to the child’s level in the argument.
It is also very important to keep in mind that parents should give consequences for bad behavior based on that behavior alone and not on the child’s angry emotional state at the time. Given a safe place to let off steam, a child will have the time to get over being angry and realize his negative actions have real consequences. It is also important to recognize that overly harsh punishments meted out in the heat of an argument will only make the situation worse. Unnecessary punishment only escalates the situation. When a parent loses their emotional control and starts stacking harsh consequences in the heat of the moment, it is always counter productive. The more desirable result is that the child learns that when he gets upset, there is an appropriate way to get out of it.
An effective way for parents to teach their children how to deal with their anger appropriately is to show them that adults deal with anger or frustration most effectively by stepping back and taking a break. Admitting that you’re angry and that you need some time to calm down is not a weakness, it is an appropriate response that can go a long way in teaching children how to manage their anger.
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